Building your Confidence
What is confidence? Does your confidence affect your every day life? Can you build and grow your confidence in a matter of weeks or even days?
If you have read Norman Doidge “The Brain that changes itself” you will know that the mind is one damn powerful thing but how do the stories and research in this book about neuro-plasicity have in common with confidence?
Confidently exercise your brain
Below is an exercise you can do yourself when negative thoughts and feelings that affect your everyday life come into your mind, it may not seem easy, or it may even seem silly or too simply to some, or simply like it could never work but trust me – try this effective exercise every day just before bed for at least a week and notice what effect it has on you, and your relationships with others.
The whiteboard and Eraser Exercise
While sitting in a comfortable chair, close your eyes and imagine that you have a whiteboard on the inside of your forehead. Also imagine that you have an eraser in your hand. Once you have visualized this, your job is to look at the whiteboard, and keep it blank. When a picture or thought appears on the whiteboard, move your imaginary hand and wipe it clean. Do this exercise for maybe 5 minutes every day before you go to bed.
Some visualize a drive-in movie screen, others used black spray paint or a blackboard or iPad. It really doesn’t matter, they all work. The key is to keep our foreheads free of images and thoughts. This is a gentle exercise. Doing it for only a few minutes every day is a gentle way of letting our conscious mind understand that it is not in full charge of our lives.
When you feel that you aren’t able to do something or you have a ‘crisis of confidence‘ and you feel hopeless, or even useless in your job. Try this exercise, you’ll need a pen and paper and about 20 minutes uninterrupted time (make it happen, it’s worth it).
Think of your role model, someone that you believe to be inspirational. Got it? Now, write down all the skills and strengths this person or character has, don’t stop for at least 5 minutes (time yourself if you have to). Finally, tick the skills and characteristics that you recognise you have within yourself. Notice what you admire in this person and notice what skills you have in comparison.
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By using these basic training exercises you will organically build your self-confidence and thus gain back control of your time and begin to make confident and quick decisions in your clinic and life. People will be drawn to your confidence and the more you work on yourself the more your practice will grow.
Please always bear in mind that working on yourself is a daily ritual that you deserve, and as such you will be constantly spending time adding to your ‘the bank of you’ and you will be more able to look after others.
Fill up your own cup, before filling up others.